Switch to positive?

An old friend is also going through IVF at the moment and has been having a hard time coming to terms with it. She said she had been feeling overwhelmingly negative and hopeless about it all.

She dislikes the idea of the drugs - she doesn't normally even do Neurofen. Plus she has been feeling it won't work, and if it does she will miscarry, and if even this doesn't happen the baby will be born with Downs.

She told all this to the nurse who suggested she had nothing to lose by switching these thoughts around to positive ones.

My friend said wasn't that just setting herself up for a fall?

The nurse said if there was a fall it would hurt no matter what and she would have to deal with it if it happened. She had nothing to lose by being positive in the meantime.