Miracle Cures

Am feeling guilty today because I snapped at my mum. We went to see her for an early Christmas weekend as we are going to H's family in Australia. Really wanted to make it special for her as she was very generous encouraging us to go and I have a feeling she's going to have a miserable time with this older lady friend of hers who is very ill and quite possibly on her last Christmas. She does have more cheerful friends she could be with, but she is thinking of this older lady.
Anyhow, everything was going good. H even came to her school carol concert in the cathedral which would normally be his idea of torture and she was very happy about this. We pulled crackers, played card tricks and told jokes. Then she started going on about this homeopathic medecine she wants me to take for the IVF and I couldn't bear it. I snapped several times that I did not want to talk about it and then just kept on snapping 'I will bear it in my mind' in a very unconvincing way.
It wasn't just a case of taking this stuff to keep her happy. I would have to get a hair anaylsed and go for a special appointment and get stuff imported from Spain. I don't want all of that - I spent too much time last time worrying about what I was eating, drinking, doing etc and no longer think it makes much difference. I really want to keep it simple this time. Obviously eat healthily and not drink, but other than that just try to stay happy. Maybe do acupuncture - but even that I am not sure.
I am so sick of suggestions of 'miracle cures' and stories about people who have taken such 'miracle cures' and had success. Or the other favourite of my mum's, people who have struggled for years and then 'just relaxed' and a miracle baby just popped along. Not only does this not take into account how often this DOESN'T happen, but it makes you feel that if it doesn't work it is your fault for not 'relaxing enough' or not taking that '1 miracle cure' which might save you.
Trying all these random things just increases the anxiety and stress of the situation and makes me feel more frantic and to blame. This time around, I have to not do this.
But this is very hard for my mum to get. She doesn't believe in medical doctors anyhow - for her its all about hippy dippy things and chakras. It is not that I completely dismiss all alternative medecine - but it is just not what I need right now. But there's almost no point trying to explain. She 'means well' and I have to find a way to deal with her way without hurting her feelings and making me feel guilty in response. If only I could go back and just not tell her about it all!!